Saturday, February 13, 2010

Oh-Verwhelmed with Oh-Livia

I've been a little overwhelmed over the last six months, which is why I haven't been able to keep up on my blog. With Jeremy working 80+ hours a week, I am truly a single parent without the luxury of having every other weekend off.

Landon's school is really aggressive right now and requires a lot of help from me. In addition to Scouts, we've also started piano for both kids, and dance for Emma. Livi is still in speech therapy once a week and is starting an articulation class next week.

An aggressive schedule like this is hard enough as a single mom without throwing any additional curve balls my way.

Enter Olivia...the cutest curve ball ever.

As a 2-year old, it's normal for her to have a hard time transitioning from one activity to another. It's also normal to have difficulty communicating her needs, which ends in a tantrum. However, with her sensory disorder, everything is intensified times five.

*Fair Warning: I'm about to go on incessantly about poo. Yes, poo. Please stop reading now if you don't want to hear about poo.

In January Livi had a double ear infection, which put her on antibiotics. This medicine backed her up really bad. We ended up giving her an enema after she didn't go for ten days. Since then she has been holding it in for fear that it will hurt each time she goes poop. Every couple of hours she screams bloody murder, and wants me to hold her because she's so traumatized by the whole thing that happened THREE WEEKS ago. I can't get anything done. I leave the room and she chases after me like I'm going to make a run for it.

Which I am.

I can't change her diaper because she thinks we are going to give her another enema. We end up holding her down to change a simple wet diaper, which traumatizes her more, and the cycle continues.

Oh, meanwhile, I have to do a Science Fair project for Landon, drive Emma to dance, make a salad for Scouts, help Emma with a book report, drive to piano, practice piano, plan Emma's birthday, and plan Livi's birthday. Oh, and then there's the laundry, bills, lunch, dinner, cleaning and other day-to-day tasks.

With an over sized 2-year old on my hip.

Screaming.

Also, since this traumatizing pooping event, she hasn't slept through the night. She wakes up every few hours screaming as though there is someone in her room pulling her up by her ears.

There's not.

I actually had to go back to forcing her to "cry it out", like I did when she was a newborn.

Except she just turned three.

Someone once said, 'God will never give you more than you can handle.'

Well, I'd like to meet that someone...

and throw him off a cliff...

and see how well he handles that.

I know I still have to post about Christmas, Emma's Birthday, Livi's Birthday, Valentines Day, and a few events in between. But, I need to go to sleep so I can be awakened in a few hours by my little curve ball.

Good night!

4 comments:

Unknown said...

Melanie, you need a hug and a little time off! Somewhere down the road you will be able to look at this time as a bump in the road but right now it is a huge obstacle! Know that there are resources available to you and take advantage of every one of them and don’t give up. Go out to lunch and let someone else deal with her for a while. She will learn to appreciate you more. Prayer works well for me but not everyone else. I also used to put myself in time-out quite often! If you are ever out this way, I could give you a break!

Stephanie said...

I'm sorry. Rodney has sensory problems too and its been hard. He is almost 4 the slightest thing can set him off. He has a cold and the mucus is making him gag. Its hard but it does get better. Hang in there!

mooresclan said...

Melanie,
I am so sorry. It is hard when you are doing everything and you feel like things just keep getting worse. I wish I had advice for you, but maybe it is better to know that I hear what you are saying. I love you.

Jamie said...

When it rains it pours! I'm sure you are handling it a lot better than you think you are. Hang in there. As someone else once said, (probably that same annoying guy) :)...this too shall pass! Hang in there. If you ever feel like dropping your cute Oliva off for a playdate so you can have some YOU time I know my 2 year old would love the company!!